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How to save your child from a sex predator? The Gurugram murder of the child has again thrown open many fundamental questions. Now, what is it we can do as parents? So the lesson number one do not think only girls are venerable, even boys are. What are the solutions to ensure that your child is safe from the sexual predator? Child abuse is something which always existed. The fundamental difference which has come is the spread of the news. Earlier such things were kept under the carpet and the attempt was made to hush the matter. A bit of this still is true. People will generally not like to share such experiences for the fear of the stigma. Such an experience feels self-implicating. This is the greatest strength of the predator. As we bring up our kids we all come across such situations. We are lucky if we could see the intentions of predators otherwise it is a hidden dark spot.Today when I look back I can make few observations which I would like to share with you! For ...

Who brings up your child? Class X Board exams Class x board exam Past two months I was off the writing and got busy with the school of great repute! This time it was class X and IX! This is the first year when the board exams start for class X after a gap of good seven years. This is a panic situation for the parents and teachers who have not dealt with the board exams earlier. Teaching these classes was an eye-opener for me.In these ten years when I left school teaching to coaching the class XI and XII students made my perception different. There are few inherent weaknesses that have cropped in in these few years! Many issues have cropped up. In my opinion, it is initiated with the status symbol- a full-time maid!   Well, many a time the maid is responsible even for feeding and making the food for the child.The child grows more in the shadow of the maid who is hardly educated rather than parents or grandparents.The most impressionable years of the life and ...

Screen time and children —The effect on brain and development Recent research confirms t hat the first five years are particularly important for the development of the child's brain, and the first three years are the most critical in shaping the child's brain architecture. Early experiences provide the base for the brain's organizational development and functioning throughout life. They have a direct impact on how children develop learning skills as well as social and emotional abilities. In today’s time, as I am writing this or you are reading this blog, both are using the screen time. We simply cannot go back to the old times and simply say ‘NO’ to the video screen.But all of us are worried and think what will be the result? I think most of us do need to use screen some way. But in any case, many of us are not sure of the effects it may have on the infant & kids. How much of time is OK and what content is OK? In past ten years, a lot of research has ...

The first five crucial years of your child I will quote a study: “Between birth and the age of ten or eleven, the nucleus basalis is permanently ‘switched on’. It contains an abundance of the neurotransmitter acetylcholine, and this means new connections are being made all the time. Typically this means that a child will be learning almost all the time — if they see or hear something once they remember it.” The first five years are especially crucial for physical, intellectual, and social-emotional development. I observed an interesting behavior when my family went to a restaurant with my three-year-old grandchild to a restaurant in London. At the end of it, the waitress asked, if you care for coffee. All of us simply said, “No Thanks”. Well, it is a normal response for any Indian to say ‘No’ straight away. But my granddaughter brought up in the UK says, “I am good, thank you so much”.   So obviously, kids learn vocabulary, language and the way they conduct from their s...